Most of us have been at least one broken relationship in our lives; we are bound and broken and can never bring those that were responsible for our broken heart back to consciousness. If we think we will never find love again, it’s a deep fear that can hold us back from ever being ready for love again.
Even if you do find yourself in a situation where you meet a man and he seems like the perfect match, you won’t know if he is in love with you until after you have had sex. When you’re in a relationship you are always testing the water to see if it’s warm or cold; with sex being the great equalizer, you will frequently rely on your sexuality to bring you a long-needed comfort – that is if you’re still feeling good.
As you begin to swim daily in that sexually charged afloat situation, it’s a daily test to see if you exist in a relationship that is still together. Sometimes the members of a relationship have already split up when you arrive and are now seeing someone new. How do you work through looking for love in a situation in which you have been emotionally involved?
I have been at odds with this point of view but found myself compelled to respond when a woman wrote to tell me that her boyfriend had left her. I was stunned because she had been so sure that her troubled relationship had been a complete and utter disaster. In the end she broke by confessing that she felt bad herself and she had not constituents enough to dump him.
This case study is so simple, yet so key, to the way millions of women feel as they look for love. They have a variety of possible men to choose from as long as they don’t allow the fear of being alone to influence their choices. When you appear desperate to find love, your efforts are gone down the drain and cloud the vision.
It’s crucial for women to have the inner strength to hold onto the principle that love does exist and to make decisions that are based on the desires of self and not on the need of others.
Today we are taught that choice is the logic behind every human action. The logic behind buying a house is to live in a house, which we then make out of glue and dowels and framing two slats to create a frame to put our kitchen table together.
The logic behind a relationship is to have someone you love, who loves you in return, to have a family and to be forever. The logic behind having sex with a man after only knowing him for a few hours is to have your barriers down so that you can better resist the extremeepressed desires of your heart.
Matter of fact these days there is very little part of a woman’s body that men are highly attracted to. Yes, some men like certain breasts and some men like legs, but trust me when I say that it is safer to Forgo these areas completely.
Men are looking for a total woman, whom they can trust, admire, appreciate, have fun with, and respect. These are all facets of your personality that answers the question, “What is she like.” When trying to meet a new man, women need to figure out what he is into from the beginning.
Have you ever met a man and within the first minute you were into something completely different then you ever expected? The beauty of life is in finding the things that you are into for yourself and making them into your main focus.